Habits of Someone Trying to Find Peace, Soft Life Edition

"Let July be July, and let August be August. And let yourself just be, even in uncertainty. You don't have to fix everything. You don't have to solve everything. You can still find peace and grow in the wild of changing things"

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Authors interlude: As the woman I am, I continue to grapple with this issue even today. Despite engaging in extensive healing and self-improvement efforts, I am well-acquainted with this mindset and way of life. It transforms your existence from vibrant living to merely becoming a part of a harmful cycle, a circle characterized by confusion and vulnerability. This pattern originates from feelings of victimization, diminished self-worth, and lingering uncertainties. It truly and deeply stops you from living the life you were meant to have.

It is so very hard to let go of where you thought you would be by now.

From one piece of a growing puzzle to another, here are some helpful tips that were transformative to my thinking and overall mental morale.

Pay attention to the quality of your life

Regularly evaluating your life satisfaction is a prudent practice. If you find yourself unsatisfied, consider what adjustments may be necessary. This life is yours to live, so find happiness in what you have built. Embracing the elements of your life and the positive energy it embodies is essential for self-care and growth.

Be still

Always work your way toward quiet places and soft moments. Easier said than done huh?

More deeply I mean, internally. Be still and know. Know that things will work out the way they were intended. I had to learn that my worrying and anxiety were no match for what was going to happen regardless of what I did. I had to stop finding comfort in controlling the uncontrollable. Life will stop being a fight when you stop being a soldier.

Learn to accept and move on

Ouch. Some of us should be working at Blockbuster the way we keep replaying events and rewinding situations to watch them again. There you go again finding comfort in the past. It is a coping mechanism; you are not alone. Can I tell you a secret? Acceptance is a superpower. We can't control our outcomes. Acceptance highly reduces regret. There's no way we could grow if we always got our way, but how sweet life would be! Ask yourself this. If it were raining, are you the type of person who will dwell on how wet you would get, how bad the weather has been lately, and how it's inconveniencing you, or would you just have fun picking your favorite umbrella?

Who do you want to surround yourself with? Who you keep as your company matters because their trajectory affects your trajectory. When considering the people you surround yourself with, it is crucial to reflect on the impact they have on your life. The individuals you choose to spend your time with play a significant role in shaping your thoughts, beliefs, and aspirations. By surrounding yourself with individuals who challenge and inspire you, you can continue to learn and evolve as a person. In essence, the people you choose to surround yourself with have a profound impact on your life journey. By being intentional about the company you keep, you can cultivate a positive and empowering environment that propels you toward success and fulfillment.

Controlling your stress/Emotional Energy

Ignoring stress levels can give birth to damaging coping habits.

Not all sources of stress can be eliminated, and not all of them should be. Moderate stress can actually stimulate the brain, enhancing productivity and concentration. It can also serve as a strong motivator for initiating changes, solving problems, and achieving goals.

Furthermore, many stressors are simply out of our control. The prevalence of feeling stressed and overwhelmed has become so widespread that we often overlook the possibility of an alternative way of living.

Find time to focus on what you want

Something that helped me personally with this was living more purposefully. Living forward.

Anybody can come up with a list of things they DONT want, but what do you WANT. What does your life look like if up to you? It all can be very overwhelming. A tip that helped me is to break down goals into quarters, or 3-month integers, 90-day intervals. Plan your life specifically. Write it down and gravitate your steps. It all starts with Day 1. You have to give more energy to what you want, and then give it more clarity. Being aggressive about your happiness and goals in life transforms into a more assertive approach to long-lasting happiness.

Set boundaries and limits

You will never find peace if your life is an intersection for everyone's traffic. Creating a peaceful life can be challenging when you constantly find yourself in the middle of everyone else's needs and expectations. It's crucial to establish boundaries and prioritize your well-being. Confidence plays a significant role in this process. Someone once told me "You have to love yourself more than you like to make people feel comfortable" This statement emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-respect. When you prioritize your own happiness and inner peace, you are better equipped to navigate through life's challenges.

6 Month Level Up Plan

Month 1

• Reflect on your life so far

• Find out what your true goals are

• Create a 6-month action plan

• Go over your finances

Month 2

• Embrace simplifying your everyday

• Build a new positive mindset/habits

• Focus on ending bad habits

• Make a budget

Month 3

• Focus on executing plans

• Increase time spent on working on long-term goals

• Improve diet/nutrition

• Improve self discipline

Month 4

• Improve finances

• Start a workout plan

• Adjust plans for final months

Month 5

• Address inner challenges

• Read more

Month 6

• Acknowledge your accomplishments

• Work on wrapping the year up with small wins
  

Set goals for Financial, Health, Career and Personal

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