Secrets to Happiness: Life is a Mind Game

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We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are

• You may not be fond of magic, but suck it up you have to trick yourself

In simple terms, life presents numerous challenges that are tailored for you, which you may simply prefer to avoid. There are plenty of twists and turns and lengthy paths for brief teachings. I understand this. I am no different from you; I would also rather steer clear of them. However, both you and I are aware that avoiding them will only result in more difficulties. You have to push through. Ask yourself, 'Do I want to be uncomfortable now, to be comfortable later? Or comfortable now, to be uncomfortable later?'

Life is so much better when you're in your own world, but is your own world where you want to be? You have to be happy on purpose. Stop being so reactive and focus on what's good for you, neurologically, mentally, and physically.

• Rewire your negative thinking

This is a big one. I still struggle with it. Picture this. For every negative thought you have, it takes 5-6 positive thoughts for your brain to forget the negative one. Be more kind to your mind. What you think is what becomes, in your world. This only feeds anxious thoughts and behavior, and we lose productive time. This is no overnight task. Practice.

• Be more active

It's as easy as that. There is no magic set number of sit-ups, steps, or curls. Just start with moving. There are lots of psychological effects to this habit. Pick one!

1. Strengthens muscles and bones

2. Reduces stress and improves mental health

3. Increases energy levels

4. Enhances brain function

5. Helps maintain a healthy weight

6. Lowers inflammation

7. Promotes overall well-being

• Create a self-care schedule

Practicing self-kindness cultivates a healthy connection with oneself, promoting self-compassion and self-acceptance. Consequently, this can enhance self-esteem and confidence, enabling you to tackle life's obstacles with increased resilience and a positive outlook. You owe yourself the love you so freely give other people

• Take a nap

Sleeping is so hard when you can't stop thinking. It's difficult to balance. But it's harder to process when you're a zombie in your own mind. Go to sleep love. Rinse and repeat.

• Connect with others

 Don't isolate yourself, as there is strength in being social. The beauty of it all is that companionship easily spreads - all it takes is to initiate a conversation. OK OK, this may not be easy for some. Baby steps. You can always talk to me.

• Set yourself up for small wins

Map out some attainable goals for yourself to build momentum for a bigger start-up later. Be confident that that you can do it. Stop waiting for Friday, start today. You're stepping into the most successful part of your life

Despite the lack of motivation from lists or speeches, I realized that the desire for change had to come from within me. Much of my struggle stemmed from self-doubt and a lack of confidence in my abilities. It wasn't a fear of achieving success, but rather a fear of failure and the accompanying emotions. I hesitated to invest effort, fearing it would be futile and anxious about the passing of time. This anxiety led me to questionable choices when all I truly wanted was to pause, reflect, and proceed with caution. I desired the opportunity to reflect, but the truth was that I couldn't afford that luxury for my mental strength. Taking small steps forward was essential. Despite my slow pace, I was making progress. What is coming in better than what has gone.